Wednesday, 30 August 2017


This article was written by my friend Rekya Ochuwa Jessica. 
According to her, a lady in a relationship where there's love from both parties genuinely, it shouldn't come as a surprise if the man finally proposed. She further explained that instead of the unnecessary drama that goes with the surprised displayed by the woman, instead it should be a leap for joy.
Here is how she puts it
I remember this part in one of my favorite movies, Stepmom, starring Julia Roberts, Susan Sarandon and Ed Harris. Ed was divorced from Susan and dating Julia, but Susan still harbored a lot of bitterness, so she always had one negative thing or the other to say about Julia. Their two kids didn't like Julia also, probably picked the negative energy their mother, Susan, felt for Julia...

Well, back to the part I mentioned earlier. Ed woke Julia up one morning and after saying some things, proposed to her. Julia did not claw at her face in surprise, she just gave a beautiful smile and said yes.

Please, let's stop deceiving ourselves. When a man loves a woman, she would know it. She would never be surprised whenever he did something nice for her because that's the way it's supposed to be. It's the normal thing to do. When a man loves a woman, let his entire village be against her, it wouldn't matter one bit, it would never have a negative influence on the way he acts with her and she would never feel bad about it because he would shower her with plenty of love, regardless.

There's a difference between screaming for joy and screaming in surprise. When your man surprises you with something nice, you should leap for joy and not in surprise because you should know this man loves doing nice things for you. Expect nice things from him and when they come, be joyful.

When your man proposes to you and you are surprised, please, don't say yes. If you two have been dating for a while and you love each other deeply, a proposal shouldn't surprise you. You should expect it and every other nice thing that come with a genuine, loving relationship. If you are surprised when he proposes, you should sing, 'let's wait a while,' by Janet Jackson for him. Lol.

Train your mind to expect the best experiences in your relationship because it is what you think about you will see. If your partner is unromantic and you are fixated on that, my dear, they will become more and more rigid. Remove your eyes from the things you don't like about them and focus more on what you like and you will begin to receive more of the things you like and less of what you don't.

You deserve the best love and kindness, so you shouldn't be surprised when you see it. Instead be joyful and you will see more - pressed down, shaken together and running over.

Here is what some others think.  ⏬⏬⏬⏬

(1) I agree. If you're surprised, you probably had doubts. If you said yes in spite of doubts, you're probably grateful a man found you worthy out of many. Not a sure foundation.

(2) I'm certain my surprise will be because of the occasion he chooses to do so, and not  because he proposed.

Do you agree with these views?
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