Monday, 28 November 2016


I love my boyfriend but have a problem with him on how he always uses negative comments when it comes to my family issues.

I’m from a very responsive family and we have our differences too. My parents aren't what you term "rich", but they try to provide all that we need. Though i have a brother who dropped out of school as a result of wrong company and a sister who got herself impregnated by an unserious boy, but the remaining four (we are six) of us, didn't disappoint our parents.

I don’t support what or the type of life my brother and sister are living, but, which family doesn't have a bad sheep? However, I still can’t bear my boyfriend talking to them anyhow. They are still my family and i love them.
Whenever he talks about  my siblings, it’s always to say something nasty or hurtful.

I tried my very best to ignore what he says and i do ask him to stop when he gets on a roll because i know we’re going to end up fighting over it again.

I have tried to suggest that we just don’t mention my family at all. If he doesn’t talk about them, then, i won’t either. I have already changed so much about myself just to make our relationship work but, but he just can’t respect my feelings on this.

I find myself questioning how i ended up being in a relationship with a guy like this.

I don’t think it’s a lot to ask from him to just ignore my family and to stop criticising them in front of me.

What do you think?

From Admin

Hmmmm like you said who is totally free? I think you have done your best by telling how his negative comments make you feel. He has no right whatsoever to dishonour you as a woman and disrespect your siblings whether they are imperfect or not. If he can't respect your feelings in courtship, he can't respect it in marriage. 
I personally, will say that if you are not happy being in there, please do the needful as its just in a relationship and not marriage yet, if along the short time that you have been trying to correct him about what you do not like and yet he keep on doing it then what would happen if you are already married to him? if he can dishonour you now in a relationship, how much more will he do when he finally discover you are all his? He will know your family has handed you over to him fully and probably may even do it more than you've been seeing now.

Women are half part of men, therefore if he cannot understand this by making you his second part thereby teaching you what you are suppose to do,without abusing your right, then dear quit from that relationship. Don't even border to take it beyond this level 

I hope i have been able to provide a little answer to your questions. 


  1. My dear this man would never respect you, since you feelings doesn't matter to him. The simple truth is that you need to quit. Because the same way he sees your family that's how he sees you.

    1. It can't be said any better. Thanks @Mimi for contributing.

  2. Dont allow it,walk away and abuse his family in return and let him feel how it feels.

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