Thursday, 25 August 2016

My wish that didn't come through

Growing up at the age of 15-16, I remember asking God that when I get older & start dating, my first boyfriend should not only be my first and last boyfriend but also he should be a man after Gods heart so he knows how to love & respect me dearly! Not knowing God really did listen to my prayers.  πŸ˜’

 7 years ago Kunle and I met in church & although we were too young to make marital decisions, we just knew we were meant for each other!!!

A lot of people teased me for not having experience dating around but today I am proud to say my first boyfriend really indeed is my last boyfriend. πŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ’

I'm glad I can advise younger girls that dating is not something you should rush into. If you wait on the Lord & let Him pick your partner for you, He will provide nothing but THE best.

The above story reminded me of my wishes as a much younger girl.... 

I started dating when i was 21 and said the exact words of Chimmy. I loved him so much and he adores me (or so i thought). After some months of dating, he was transferred from the state he was to another state which means we won't be seeing much of ourselves as we used to. I guess that changed everything because shortly after that transfer, i noticed a lot of difference in him.

 I forgot to mention that he is one that never compliment me no matter how hard i try to get his compliment, no matter what am wearing, my hairstyle, even though i compliment him and have told how i feel each time he pretends not to notice any thing about me, he still didn't change.. 

Ok fastward to years later (we dated for 3yrs +) i  saw a man who takes decision without bothering about how i feel about it (he doesn't even tell me about it). I realized i would be unhappy all the days of my life should i continue with this relationship (cos by then he has already proposed) i had to take the exit door and pursue my happiness. 

So many people are stuck in an unfulfilling relationship today because they have said same thing (my first boyfriend is who am gonna get married to) but not many are as lucky as chimmy. 

I remained in that relationship that long because of that same statement. Please if it's not working and your happiness is at stake,  LEAVE. 

Congrats Chimmy yours is a fact that you don't need to kiss many toads before you found your Prince. 

Who else had that wish and things didn't work out as planned??? Use the comment box and lets learn from each other. 


  1. Congrats to her.. But the truth is that whatever works for Mr A, might to also work for Mr B... The best thing is to stay true ti God's original plan for your life

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    1. True word. Thanks for visiting.

    2. I like your comment. Thumbs up.

    3. Glowy shoes said my mind....All man to his own

  2. I wished to have just one relationship as well but it didn't work out and I knew I had to leave. He was a great guy and all but we were just too different.

    1. Yeah its better to leave than to remain unhappy all the days of your life.. Thanks for visiting dear.

  3. Congrats to her, great read. Thanks for sharing.

    1. You are welcome dear thanks for stopping by.

  4. I think I know that feeling too well, I too wished my first would be my last but looking back now I am thankful to God that I took the exit when I did. Cause what I have now is much more fulfilling and true.


    1. Awwwwh @sunlightdreamer good to have you back. Yes i know the feeling tooooo well lolz thanks for stopping by.

  5. Hmmm story of my life. Well I think experience in some way helps us build confidence and finding ourselves better as women. I love my life right now and I appreciate who I am with currently. The process to me made me grow.

    Congrats to the newly engaged couple.

  6. Lolz.. I wished same too but now eh.. To enter relationship self da fear me


  7. I wish I could say I even remembered to pray about relationships when i was growing up. I guess I didn't think it was something God would follow through since I was raised then to believe God would put us through trials to strengthen us. So multiple dates would mean a tougher person. Imagine

    1. Awwwwh sweet Oluchee thanks for visiting. So much misconception about God way back. Thank God we now know better. All the same the mistakes makes us stronger and wiser.


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