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Tuesday, 10 May 2016

THE MYTH OF FINDING A SOULMATE by Dominic Nsikan John



Whenever i ask some singles why they aren't married yet, the answer i often get is, "i haven't found the right person yet" or "i am still looking for my soulmate." But is there really anything like a soulmate or right person out there?


The answer is NO! There's no such thing as a soulmate or right person for anyone. The idea that God created a particular person for any man or woman is A BIG LIE.
The world has believed this lie for too long and this alone has delayed the marital destinies of many singles and has led to
many married couples thinking they made a mistake in their choice.

There's no super perfect person out there somewhere in the universe that's been created just for you. The only place you
can find perfect people is in the movies. As soon as you walk away from the screen, you discover that only imperfect
people occupy this space. If perfect people ever existed, believe it or not, they are all dead! If you are on the search
for a soulmate, right or perfect person for you, you are searching for someone that doesn't exist.

In Nigerian parlance, you are on a 'long thing.' Don't let anybody deceive you.
How can one be so gullible to believe that there is one person somewhere that has been customised for him/her?

That's the height of selfishness. Can you really imagine that God would create another human being just to make you
happy? No one is custom made to suit any particular man or woman; they are only custom made to the image of God. If
you find/meet the image that you want, you woo him/her and take him/her home, all protocols observed.

The Bible says, "He that findeth a wife..." It doesn't say "He that findeth HIS WIFE..." The 'a' there simply means 'one' among many existing wives as compared to 'his' which talks about a particular person. God said "i will make him a help meet..." He didn't say I'll make him 'his' help meet.

God made many 'help meets'; hence the responsibility on every man to identify the one that meets the help that he needs
and marry accordingly.

Many people have the wrong notion that maybe if they marry the 'right person' that somehow their marriage will be easier. Hahahahaha! See, the key to a successful marital relationship is not about finding the right person.
A successful relationship in marriage is only possible if the two people commit to doing the right things. If they do the right things, they'll succeed. If they don't, they'll fail...it's that simple.

That there's no such thing as a perfect person, a soul mate or the right person doesn't mean you should go and marry
just anybody out there. You must be thoughtful about your choice of a marital partner.

Be thoughtful as much as you can but don't get trapped in the idea that there's a special person in the universe meant for you.


Ps
Dominic Nsikan John (DNJ) is a prolific writer that has written several interesting article. You can check him out on Facebook. 

13 comments:

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  3. I agree to a large extent. I don't think there is a specific person meant for a specific person. Any two compatible people could work it out in a relationship.

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  4. A great perspective to look at thing from and certainly worthy to ponder on. Thanks for sharing and have a nice week!

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  5. Alot of revelations here.


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  6. I wish I can send this to a friend searching for Mr. Perfect/Right

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  7. Well said...
    Yes, it is difficult to tell which is the Mr Right, but that don't blInd our eyes from knowing the Mr Wrong (who maybe, beats you up while in relationship.)

    Dont wait for Mr Right, and dont marry Just anyone who comes your way either *just my opinion*

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  8. Well said...
    Yes, it is difficult to tell which is the Mr Right, but that don't blInd our eyes from knowing the Mr Wrong (who maybe, beats you up while in relationship.)

    Dont wait for Mr Right, and dont marry Just anyone who comes your way either *just my opinion*

    Happy to be Back here.

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  9. Straight to the heart. Nice reminder
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