Monday, 11 April 2016

Should marriage be the next after NYSC?

The love expert Joro Olumofin just posted the  message below on his instagram page..enjoy!

 Which should come after graduation?: Marriage, Masters or job hunting? Based on surveys, Direct Observation and social media polls a lot of young Nigerian ladies who are still dependent on their parents for (shelter, food, clothing) and have little income will rather get married than pursue their masters or job hunt. 

 Is this a wise decision to make? get married or committed to someone without fully developing your potentials, getting years of work experience and adding extra academic credentials to your belt.  There has been an increase in young brides aged (22-25), most interestingly the urge for young ladies to get married has drastically increased as a result of Family pressures, wedding hashtag (#), wedding blogs, social media gratification, societal pressures. 

These factors have lit an unquenchable Fire in young ladies to have the title "Mrs" without thinking about themselves first or what they can bring to the table in the Union of marriage.  As a modern day Nigerian man and a professional in this field I can confidently assert that men are more attracted to women who have packaged and branded themselves very well, who can bring some form of financial and backup support to the table. 

If you notice the first thing your boyfriends parents always ask is "what do you do? Or what do you intend on doing next?" Most times the response given determines their approval of you.  In closing, this article doesn't suggest that you won't make a good bride without a job or masters, or your marriage progressing depends on your account balance or your doctorate / masters degree. 

A lot of people are married, happy and in love while even returning to school, starting makeup classes etc  Empower yourself first before commitment so you don't have to depend on any man for daily / monthly handouts or pocket money. It's the women who are financially down and occupationally inept that condone anything from their husbands because if they talk to much they won't eat that night.


  1. Well said, it is always good to work before getting married


    Hmm mm mm. The ideal thing for a matured lady is #from convocation gown to wedding gown# and at worst, from #Nysc kaki to wedding gown#.

    I don't know who told the writer that ladies has to wait till after graduation from school before they empower themselves. It's already late.

    You are telling ladies not to marry because they are yet to find a lucrative job, gain additional qualifications while ignoring the evil of those sugar mummy you see all over the Internet on a daily basis.

    They've already heed to your advice by gaining all the worldly things, yet they use their money and position to search for young blood guys.

  3. Well said... Marriage will come at the right time.. But for now a woman need to work and earn something good for herself

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  4. i agree with the writer,ladies should befor marriage empower theirselves,get something doing dont be a liabilty as you wait for the right guy,try to also add valuee to your worth

  5. I agree with him, but the pressure from parents when a girl graduates no be here. Expecially when you are an only child. But ladies there is a need to be independent, get something doing before marriage that's the ideal thing. Don't sit at home waiting for one dangote to come and pay your dowry, help yourself, even as an undergraduates you can be an entrepreneur.

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  6. Well said Glo hard and make your own money before Marriage.

    1. But nevertheless, if marriage comes knocking before achieving ur goals, go Ahead.

    2. But nevertheless, if marriage comes knocking before achieving ur goals, go Ahead.

  7. Hmmmmm remember ladies are like flora, I'll advice you take it when come knocking. You can achieve your goals while in your husband house. My opinion anyway.

  8. I don't think it should be timed though. Everybody works on diff timing. The only thing is not to sit waiting for marriage when you should be productive.


    The lady watched the children closely and bid her time. She was not in a hurry; she was more interested in results. She knew enough about how people goofed when they weren’t patient enough. She wondered if nobody ever told them patience is a virtue. It was a good thing she had common sense. From her position behind the willow trees – which formed a hedge around the entrance of the park – she could see the children.
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  9. marriage is a thing for Go to deliver to one, so at d ryt tym u r good to go...


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