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Thursday, 20 August 2015

Dear Gloria My Past Is Hunting Me...


Hello lovelies it's the second Thursday on the "Dear Gloria" series. Got some mails but can't share some of them. Keep the mails coming and lets together find answers to your questions..

Dear Gloria,
My name is Jude (not real name). I have been following you even on facebook and i love the way you write and advice others..
I am 33 years old man engaged to a girl i love so much..
The problem is that i am confused and ashamed of myself. You see when i was 25, i got myself involved with some friends who introduced me into dating older women who in return pay in cash..
Since i just got admission into the University and was bent on becoming a graduate despite my poor background, i joined them and was introduced to a very wealthy woman who sponsored my schooling all through my university days..

During the period of my being with that woman i met few of her friends and my present mother in law to be was one of her friends although i don't know if she also keeps a younger lover then(though i suspect she does too) but the issue now is  that i can never feel comfortable having her as my mother inlaw.
She knows me well and recognized me immediately she saw me with her daughter and has been cold towards me.

I am a changed person now with a fairly good job. What do i do? should i quit the relationship with her daughter or should i explain everything to my fiancee?
I am confused.

My Opinion
I think you should have a conversation with your would-be mother in-law she also may have changed from that kind of lifestyle and wouldn't want her daughter to know about her ugly past.. She may be thinking you are still into that kind of life..
It's only after the conversation with her you would know whether to tell your fiancee immediately or if you can carry on with the relationship or not. (please keep me posted on this issue)..

Over to you my pipo how una see this matter?

19 comments:

  1. Her being your fiancee states that you have gotten to a serious stage with her and at this point I think you ought to have told her everything about your past, because if she is going to be the one to back you up and say yes he has really changed it is because she knows your story and knows who you are now. In the absence of not telling her trust me it will come up someday, and it might not be well handled then. I think the first step is telling your fiancee everything and let her make her decision. Do not let her be in the dark, but if she knows and she sees her mother looking at you in a funny way she can even stand in and speak to her mother for you. It is about the woman of your forever, mother in-law might just be for a while. But your happiness is with your wife/mother of your children. May God give you the wisdom you require to get through this.

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    1. I agree with Uju...open up to your fiancee. Besides, she's the one you are getting married to not her mom. Besides, her mom even has questions to answer cos only birds of a feather flock together.
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    2. 100 likes for this comment @Chukwu Uru.
      It's best you tell her everything. If she loves despite your past, she will stay. If not, let her go.

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    3. lol, ladies, it's not easy to tell o even though at the end,it is better. http://www.justfarbblog.com....

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  2. Just tell her, your fiancee, if she loves you she will accept it is your past and look forward to a better future with you.

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  3. I think you should discuss with your MIL first then the outcome will determine the approach you will use in telln your fiancee

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  7. You should first have a chat with your MIL to be and the outcome of that chat will guide you on how and what to tell your fiancee, good luck.

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  8. Too bad...Its either you live with it or you move on with your life

    Didnt you discuss your past life with your wife to be?You see???

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  9. This one is a serious matter oooo. My opinion is that you should be open to your would-be wife about your past even though she may not want to go ahead with the marriage. But before then, sit your mother-in-law to be down and make her understand the fact that you're now a changed person. I wish you all the best.
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  10. Many people don't really trust to see their ugly past stare face to face with them. This is somehow complicated though, but since you see yourself as changed, just pray and ask God for guidance and take a wise step. goodluck

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  11. Many people don't really trust to see their ugly past stare face to face with them. This is somehow complicated though, but since you see yourself as changed, just pray and ask God for guidance and take a wise step. goodluck on the next step.

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  12. Great advice! It's always good to talk things out and hope for the best. :) T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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  13. The guy says he is confused and I understand... but why on earth would he be considering quitting the relationship with his fiancee (no bi girl friend o) just like that... that should be the last thing on his mind at this moment (unless he is trying to pass on another coded information there). He should preoccupy his mind with fixing the problem. He should be sure he is a changed person like he claims, find a way to speak with his mother-in-law to clear the air, then bring this information about you to your fiancee... don't expect she will take it lightly... but you have to understand. In all like Pamela pointed, carry God along, He will make your path straight.

    Cheers.

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