Thursday, 4 June 2015


A Letter from a newly married lady to her mother

Dear mom,

Like every normal girl, I was excited about marriage right from my childhood days. I never thought beyond the time that I would spend happily with my prince charming. 

But today when I am married, I realize that marriage is not all roses. It’s not just about being with your beloved and having a gala time. There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and compromises. 

I can’t wake up anytime I want to. 
I am expected to be up and ready before everyone else in the family. 
I can’t lazy around in my pyjamas throughout the day. 
I am expected to be presentable every time. 
I can’t just go out anytime I want to. 
I am expected to be sensitive to the needs of the family. 
I just can’t hit the bed anytime I want to. 
I am expected to be active and around the family. 
I can’t expect to be treated like a princess but am supposed to take care of everyone else in the family. 

And then I think to myself, ‘why did I get married at all?’ I was happier with you, mom. Sometimes I think of coming back to you and getting pampered again. 

I want to come home to my favourite food cooked by you every evening after a nice outing with friends. I want to sleep on your laps like I have no worry in this world. But then I suddenly realize, had you not got married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn’t have had so many wonderful memories to hang on to. And suddenly, the purpose of all this becomes clear- to return the same comfort, peace and happiness to my new family that I got from you. 

And I am sure that as time would pass, I would start loving this life equally as you do. Thank you mom for all the sacrifices and compromises you made. They give me the strength to do the same. Love you mum.


  1. Marriage is a journey to an unknown destination. It involves sacrifices. You have to dedicate your time and energy and deny yourself many things in order for the marriage to work out.

  2. Forever is too long to be unhappy, one has to take time, be careful and above all, let God guide. Marriage is no beans oo.

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  3. This was beautifully written.

    How are you mamacita!

  4. Truly, marriage is not a bed of roses. It’s not just about being with your beloved and having a gala time. There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and compromises. Nice write-up

  5. So we hear ooo!!!Marriage is not usually a bed of roses but some married friends can like to paint it like it's bread and butter

    Our prayer is that God should make our family of procreation a place of divine abode for us and we should end up with our bones of bone....

    But really one should be prepared for marital life and be ready to face and handle the little challenges that may come up...

    Am a one man mopol ooo so I can't relate with the post. I grew up with dad so I already took the mummy's responsibilities

    1. *smiles* like what Bmf said, it's important you marry someone you can relate to as a friend it makes it a lot easier.. Thanks for your contribution.

  6. Such a nice post!!

  7. Nice Post Dear!
    Indeed there in no one like mom!

    1. True word @Lucky thanks for reading this.

  8. Touching.... Welcome to the world that goes round we call marriage

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  9. so true! Marriage is not for kids its for matured minds who are ready to face this lifetime job.who are prepared while waiting
    i can say inthis one year of my marriage i have grown to be a woman,i grown to become a hardworking woman.things i dont do as per house chores i learnt it in my marriage.
    sometimes i wish i didnt marry early so i will be able to prepare for the task ahead,but the fact i married my friend covers it all.

    happy wedding anniversary to me...

    1. Happy anniversary dear wish you more blissful years ahead.. Muaaaaah

  10. What a lovely thank you to your mother! She sounds like a wonderful woman. T.

  11. Don't scare we the single folks away oh. But I agree. People expect marriages to work automatically. It takes a lot of patience and understanding.

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    1. Yeah Molola the truth not to scare you but to get you prepared both mentally and emotional.

  12. Great post! My mum always tells me that too. Marriage is not easy but it is sweet.

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  13. Been bracing myself for the emotional, physical and spiritual journey called marriage. It is well.


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